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Rest. Something a lot of us need more of, but many of us feel we don’t have time to seek. I have been in a mode of go, go, go these past couple years. While some of that hustle has been positive, if I’m really honest, a lot of it has been an escape from my reality....

Lately memories have invaded my head…they’re memories of ordinary moments that I probably would never have thought of again in my life if I had stayed on the same course I was on. Things like trips to the grocery store, where I’d run off to find the rice, while he...

If you’re divorced like me, you have heard this said by well-meaning friends and family and you’re probably rolling your eyes right now. I get it. “Don’t settle!” feels trite and saccharin and like an easy way out of offering real advice. But here’s the thing…it is...

Whenever a married friend hears that I've decided to look for love on the dating apps I'm almost always met with a questioning look like maybe I've lost my ever loving mind. They'll say, "Dating apps? Really?" Like I've just given up and decided to wallow in the...

When I was a 16-year-old high school senior, a leader in our church who was in his early to mid twenties announced at a church meeting that God had revealed to him that the next woman he dated would end up being his wife. Later that night, he asked me to a Lisa Loeb...

I swore I wouldn’t do it, but it was late and I was bored. I filled out the questionnaire, clicked a few buttons, and voila, I was the newest member of a dating site. Didn’t I just finish a video interview where I basically told the world I would never do this? Oh...

I read a really difficult verse today. It was sitting there, right at the end of my daily Bible reading and it hit me hard. I thought about it for quite some time, and then I looked it up in several versions to make sure I understood what it said. I did. It was a...

I am not a patient person. There, I said it. I know I should be a patient person, but I’m simply not one. I don’t wear that as a badge of honor, but as a truth that I’m grappling with in my daily life.  Can you relate? We know we’re supposed to be patient, and we’ve...

I suppose the good news about getting divorced in the middle of a pandemic is that I’m not alone. Divorce rates have dramatically increased during this crazy time. In some ways, that’s a comfort, and in other ways it’s not.  One semi-bonus to the timing of my marital...

Self-care is a popular term these days, and I’ve heard some Christians turn their noses up at the idea. If you do an online search for the phrase, you’ll find well known Bible teachers speaking out against it, and other well-meaning Christians saying it’s fine. I...

This morning I googled, “How long does it take to heal from a divorce?” This wasn’t the first time I’d googled such a phrase, but I guess I was hoping for some sort of miraculous new answer. I didn’t find it.  Instead, I was reminded that for the length of time I was...

I’m about to reach a serious life milestone, but it’s not one I’m jumping up and down about. I’m heading into a new decade, and it feels really uncomfortable. The discomfort comes from not just growing older, but my life is literally starting over too. New town, new...

I’m in a bad mood today. A melancholy mood. A woe is me, why is life like this kind of mood. It didn’t start out that way. But here I am, halfway through what I thought was going to be a good and productive day, and instead I’m feeling stuck.  Do you notice that when...

I’m obsessed with makeup and skincare. Sephora is my favorite place to be, and I’m always the first in line to try new products by my favorite brands. Now, that doesn’t mean I’m any good at applying makeup…in fact, I find it quite challenging. I’ve never mastered the...

I started the process of moving out yesterday, and it hit me really hard. Harder than I thought it would. I mean, I’ve already been living somewhere else since March. I haven’t seen X since February. (I think I shall affectionately refer to the man who shall not be...